Hi there! Welcome to Euphoria, a little site all about happiness, optimism and positive thinking.

The reality is that everyone is fighting a hard battle in one way or another - it's just that not all of us show it - therefore despite all the things that happen, I hope that you'll be able to see the little ray of sunshine in your life. There is always an opportunity of happiness in our day - it is just up to you to see it. Therefore, my goal is here is simple: to bring a smile to your face. I hope that when you leave Euphoria, you'll feel that your day is just a little brighter. The sun is always there, even on a cloudy day.

I hope you have the most beautiful of days and I hope that Euphoria can do something for you.

Random Facts About Happiness

• Social support can significantly make a difference in your health. Researchers have found that those who are ill that have social support are more likely to be healthy. When my lecturer told us this, he told us to introduce ourselves to the person sitting next to us and then promptly said, I've just helped you improve our health. (Haha, funny guy.) So whenever you are feeling down, talk to someone - who is willing to listen - about it or simply spend some time with friends or family; doing so will minimize stress.

  Which leads to the next random fact --

• In a study conducted by Pennebaker, J.W. and Chung, C.K. (2004), they discovered that a simple strategy could positively impact you physiologically - and that was to write. Through their study, they found that expressive writing for, at least, thirty minutes every day, could improve your immune system. When this study was conducted on college students, they found that those that talked about stressful events had more benefits than those that talked about trivial events. Therefore, to keep a diary or to vent your feelings - particularly those that evoked strong emotions - would be a simple way of not letting small things manifest into big things. To think about something through over and to express it can have different effects - give it a go.
• Only ten percent of your happiness comes from external circumstances. In other words, you could say that happiness is dependent on one's attitude and it is all in the mind. Happiness is always within reach.
• Optimism, which means to be positive about things, can be trained. The more optimism is practiced, the easier optimism becomes. It is shown that people who are optimistic have greater motivation and have more resilience. To improve your outlook in life and to, in a sense, improve your mental health, will ultimately improve your physical health.
• Exercise can be a way to release endorphins, thus making us feel happier. Research has found that a minimum of 15 minutes is necessary to increase endorphin levels. In some people - not all - prolonged exercise can produce the feeling of euphoria; this feeling is often called the runner's high. It is interesting to note, however, that the runner's high is not necessarily due to the release of endorphins.

More random things about happiness -- notice I didn't say facts

Though I'm definitely not a professional of any sort, I thought I'd give these, er, whatever-you-want-to-call-them, their own section so there is a distinct separation between facts and things-that-aren't-facts. To get the idea of this separation out there, the below will seem quite personal and opinionated - but I promise that's intended!

• Sometimes happiness means acknowledging and understanding that everyday isn't happy-happy. Being ignorant to negative things can lead to undesirable consequences. We all have had bad days, but without the downs, how can we appreciate the ups? If you're currently having a bad day, don't worry, my friend. A good day will come soon and things will get better. Here's one of my favourite quotes: Everything is okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end.
• Self-acceptance can be a derivative of happiness - it's to be content with who you are and to accept that you are only human. Even though everyone may have flaws, may make mistakes or may not be as good at something than another person, you should realize and understand that despite all of that, you have qualities too. It may seem like those qualities may not be as desirable as the qualities that are commonly sought for, we are who we are - and we can only be the best that we can be. Self-acceptance is not something that is simple and immediate - like optimism, it is something that is practiced and takes time.
• Some of you who are still in school may be asked, at the beginning of the year, to write a list of goals that you hope to accomplish by the end of the school year. Setting goals for yourself is a great way to build confidence. To believe that you can accomplish something, to work towards that goal and to be rewarded with and experience that feeling of accomplishment is a way of showing yourself that, if you put your mind to it, you can do anything. Remember, there is a vivid difference between thinking about doing it and actually doing it. Want a great GPA at the end of the year? Need to finish a stack of homework? Or maybe you want to learn a new instrument or new skill? Nothing's stopping you - you just have to work for it. From personal experience, what I did with any goals that I had - like get an A in the subject I wanted to major in - was to write out or print out my goals in big font and stick it on my wall. Physically seeing that goal can remind you why that goal is important to you and when you remember the feeling of accomplishment that you would feel, you will feel more motivated.
• First, a little background: In 1963, Erikson proposed a theory called the Erikson Life Span Theory, which models the eight psychological life stages which presented with certain conflicts. In the fifth stage of this model, he theorized that between the age of eleven and twenty, the conflict those in that age experience was identity versus role confusion. In that age, we are faced with the conflict of who we are and what that encompasses. If we successfully overcome this conflict, Erikson states that we will have a strong sense of self - if we do not negotiate this stage, we will have a fragmented sense of self.
• Basing this on Erikson's theory, finding a sense of you who are can be a derivative of happiness. Like with most good things, these things take time. You can look at it this way: getting to know yourself can be like getting to know a friend. Getting to know yourself also comes with the idea of self-acceptance - know your flaws but be sure to know your qualities too.
• Sometimes in the midst of our lives, we forget to have a break and to give ourselves a moment of peace. Even if you've got mountains of work to do, taking a break from things that are stressful and having a moment of peace and quiet can make a difference. If ever you feel like you can't take it anymore, just stop. Put your work aside and take a break. Take a ten minute break, devoted to just relaxing and doing something that isn't stressful. Don't regard your break as procrastination, as you will associate your break with work that you have to do later. Listen to some music, dance (I can't dance, but I try to anyway and it makes me feel better!), read a chapter from a book -- do something to keep your mind off that thing for a little while. After your break, tell yourself that you can do this and continue working.
• A little observation I made: whilst on the bus some months ago, which was a thirty minute ride, as I was one of the later stops on the bus, I had to stand through the whole ride. Because I am vertically-challenged, standing and grasping a handle (which are along a high rail on the bus) for my dear life was quite a mission! But a lovely man, who was sitting down on a seat, gave up his seat for me. I felt rather embarrassed and insisted that I was fine. After awhile, I noticed another girl, who was much younger than I was, standing and having trouble with standing also. A boy sitting not far from the man who had offered me his seat, offered the girl his seat. This made me think: if the man had not openly offered me his seat, I wondered, would the little boy have offered it to the girl? Whether it may be or not, I've always believed that doing good deeds are contagious. Give this a go yourself: next time, maybe open the door for someone or move aside so someone can go first, or on a rainy day, offer someone standing in the rain to come under your umbrella. It'll make you feel good and even if they thank you or not, a little courtesy and chivalry is a practice that will never be underappreciated.
• Happiness may mean to be content with the givens of life - to accept and understand that to be good, there must also be bad, but to pursue the good despite that. It could also mean to live a meaningful and purposeful life. Happiness can be accomplished in many ways, and there is no set way of achieving that - it's different for everyone and it's up to you to find your own happiness.

Aside from the fact that all smiles are beautiful - have you ever seen a smile that wasn't? - smiling can affect you physiologically. The act of smiling releases endorphins and serotonin. Other physiological effects smiling has is that it reduces stress and lowers blood pressure.

It's no surprise, then, that smiling can improve your health. Research has shown that smiling can boost the immune system. Not only does smiling boost your immune system, but being positive about a situation and being optimistic can also make you feel better physiologically - an example of this is the placebo effect. Through self-perception, I noticed that when I stayed positive on getting better when I was sick, I was more likely to feel better sooner - perhaps this is due to chance, but it made my time being sick not as horrible.

There is a fact or myth - I myself am unsure of which - that says that even fake smiles can have positive effects. Whether it is true or not, genuine smiles, which can be referred to as the Duchenne smile would be more effective against stress and negative feelings.

How can you tell them apart? The Duchenne smile involves more parts of your face - there will be movement in the corners of your mouth, cheek muscles and the areas around your eyes. The limbic system, which is a group of structures in your brain that have a role of emotion regulation (as well as other things), brings about the Duchenne smile. They are also spontaneous - sometimes you don't even realize that you are smiling.

What about fake smiles? Fake smiles, or forced smiles, are called Pan-Am smiles, which involve the voluntary movement of the muscles for smiling. In contrast to the Duchenne smile, there isn't movement around the areas around your eyes when you do a fake smile.

So, the next time you feel down and stressed, stop for a moment and think of something positive. Think of a happy memory and wait for the Duchenne smile to come to your face. Maybe watch a funny video - have you all seen Pink Fluffy Unicorns Dancing on Rainbows? That always makes me laugh. And even though you may feel like you aren't in the mood to smile or being happy - remember that feeling better and a brighter day is always within reach. It's just a matter of taking a step forward and trying.

But of course, happiness does not mean smiling all the time. Smiling is just a small aspect of how to improve happiness. Happiness encompasses so much more than smiling every day and conditioning your own behaviour to be more optimistic - but, it can begin with a smile.

Knowing Your Enemy

You may wonder - why would you have a section on stress when this is supposed to be a happiness site? I think it's important to understand this sort of thing, particularly when stress is now very common in our lives. I think it's important to understand and know more about stress so that you all are aware - to understand something gives it an entirely new dimension. You wouldn't tackle an assignment without doing research first, right? That's why I've written this section on stress - so you know how to tackle and cope with it.

Stress: We are all familiar with it - stress is the new-age virus. As you may know, is that feeling of pressure, strain and frustration and can affect us mentally, emotionally and physiologically. Stress is incredibly common now-a-days, and sometimes I feel there is this ludicrous fad that you should project stress on others to illustrate how busy or motivated you are. What many people are unaware of is that stress can cause many long-term problems, therefore, despite what makes us stress may be beyond our control, we should all do our best and all we can to minimize stress.

Let's talk about stress a bit more - stress is ultimately the body's response to a perceived threat. Our body then undergoes a process in which we cope with stress - let's call our body's reaction stress response. What stress response basically does is to prepare your body with resources in order to cope with the perceived stress. Cool, right? There is one problem though - production of these extra resources disrupts homeostasis in our bodies.

How does stress affect homeostasis in our bodies? Let's have a look at Seyle's General Adaptation Syndrome - we'll call it GAS for short. Seyle's GAS model describes the sequences and reactions your body undergoes when presented with stress.

The first is alarm. When we perceive a threat, our body goes into an alarm state and your body's system is activated, thus an increase of energy levels. Ever felt that very brief feeling of alarm and fright after turning on music, only to find that, the music was incredibly loud? You may notice that, very soon after, you would have recovered from the alarm - this is because stress response varies depending on the duration of the stress.

The second stage is resistance. This is when your body attempts to provide resources to cope with the presented threat, particularly if the stress or stressor continues.

Finally, the final stage is exhaustion. This is when resources, provided to cope with the threat and stress, have been drained; as a result, this will deplete your energy. If you guessed that this can lead to very serious consequences, you'd be right - exhaustion can lead to long term effects on your body and even collapse - I've experienced this first-hand and if I could go back and do what I could have done to minimize the stress I had undergone, even at the cost of a scholarship mark I achieved, I would. Such level of stress is nothing to brag about, it's not ideal, it's not clever, and it taught me a valuable lesson. Never push yourself to this limit.

So from the GAS, what does this tell us? Stress is in our lives - it's very common now - and it can be more serious than what people think. Stress affects you physically, psychologically and can also affect your behaviour. But there are ways to minimize the effects of stress.

Coping

We all know coping to be a process in which we deal with a situation. For psychologists, however, coping is the process where someone takes action to manage, manage, take control over, tolerate and reduce demands that may cause stress. People have developed different types of coping strategies, as everyone will have their own way of coping with stress.

One coping strategy is called emotion-focused coping; this may be when, after having a bad day, you may approach a family member or friend and tell them about it to ease your feelings. As mentioned earlier in my 'random things about happiness', writing down stressful events can help you relieve stress - people who commit themselves to this will have benefits behaviourally and psychologically. Remember, social support is a good way to relieve stress - talking about it will help.

Another strategy is called proactive coping. It is to anticipate stressful things in the future and therefore do something to minimize that stress later. For example, you know that during the school year, you won't have enough time to have a part-time job; therefore, you spend your summer holidays working to make up for it. In the end, you end up taking action and minimize the amount of stress that you feel in the future.

However, the strategy that is most effective - to most - is problem-focused coping. Put simply, problem-focused coping is to solve any stress-related problems. Problem-focused coping consists of planning, gathering information, making decisions and taking action - this will generally result in the problem or situation changing, which can decrease stress.

Of course, given the coping strategies above, it all seems rather broad. Take a moment and look back on a time that you coped with stress and ask yourself: did it work well for you? Did you cope with the stress well and did the stress persist after? If you did not cope with the stress, think about something that is causing you stress now - how would you go about coping? Are you going to confront that person? Are you going to prepare and anticipate something that may happen in the future? It's important to have a good think about this - spare five minutes and think about what will work for you and work out, in the future, what you could do.

I should emphasize that coping is not something that you can immediately learn to do - yes, like all habits, coping is something that you learn over time. I implore you to give one of the strategies a go next time - assuming that you all are lovely young people, to practice coping and to learn how to minimize stress can be incredibly beneficial for you when you are all older.

Let's move on to something lighter now - something that doesn't involve a lot of learning - but it does require thinking! But you'll leave this page feeling much better if you follow the next procedure through - I promise!

• In the below are a set of questions or fill-in-the-blanks, all of which you should answer. Try and avoid answers like I don't know or I don't remember. For this to work, you need to have a good think about it. Appreciating takes effort, but the effort is worth it.
• I recommend that you open a blank page on MS Word or sheet of refill and fill it out. Date the document, so you can always look back and remember your answers for the particular day. Perhaps, if you are talking with another friend, ask them the questions and share your answers - remember, social support is good for you!
• If the statement or question is not applicable to you, don't despair! Perhaps it can inspire you!
• All of the questions/statements below are in sets of ten - an idea is to ration the statements (maybe one a day?) or ask a friend to do one set and you do another.
• Another neat idea is to write this on a piece of paper, put it in a jar and open it at the end of the month or before the New Year!

Ready? Let's go!

Set One

1. What was the weather like today? State something positive about it. Even if the forecast was something you didn't like, think about nice in relation to it - do you remember a nice memory associated with this forecast?
2. What was something positive that happened and made you happy? Why did it make you happy?
3. Think about another nice event that happened - was someone with you? If so,who?
4. In relation to the event above, what happened? Why did it make you happy? It can be something small and simple, such as talking to a friend or eating with them.
5. Think about that person you were with. Even if you do not know them very well, how have they affected you positively? Did they cheer you up or did they compliment you?
6. Now think about something that didn't go so well. To appreciate the good things, we must acknowledge the not-so-good. Tell yourself that despite what happened, you come out as a stronger person - go on, tell yourself that. I'm not joking.
7. Think about an aspect of your day today that you appreciate. It can be simple and small or it can be big and significant. Why do you appreciate what happened?
8. What was something that made you smile?
9. What was something that made you laugh?
10. Before you go to sleep tonight, think about the happy and wonderful things that happened to you today. Even if the happiness is mingled in stress, focus on the good things, rather than the bad things. Learn to appreciate the small things, because those are the things that will be special to you.

Set Two

1. Who is someone that makes you happy?
2. Remember a particular memory when you were with them that made you feel happy - why did it make you feel happy?
3. Name a person that you can always depend on.
4. Think about someone who always makes you feel better, no matter what.
5. When was a time when the persons you named in #3 and #4 helped you? What happened and how did you feel after their help?
6. Name a family member, or someone that you consider family, that always makes you happy.
7. Recall a time where you were with them and you were happy. Does it bring a smile to your face?
8. Think about your closest friend - who are they?
9. Why is person mentioned in #8 special to you? Recall a special memory you have that you share with them.
10. Think about the people you mentioned in the last nine questions. Next time you see them, appreciate them. Give them a hug, tell them that you love them, tell them that they're awesome. Go on, do it now. Text them, IM them, call them. It'll be worth it.

Set Three

Imagine the best day in the world. You'd be:
1. Where are you and what is the weather like?
2. Who is with you?
3. What would you eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner?
4. What would you do on that day?
Think back to a day that is significant to you that made you happy - or the best day of your life so far.
5. Where were you and what was the weather like?
6. Who was with you?
7. What did you eat that day?
8. What did you do on that day?
9. Looking back, do you feel happy remembering this memory? Why?
10. Compare the answers that you wrote for your imaginary perfect day and the day that actually happened. Think about it - it is all that different? For those of you that had similar answers for both days, pay attention to those answers that are similar - what does that tell you? For those of you that had quite different answers, a 'perfect' day is possible - you just have to make it happen.

Set Four

1. What is one of your favourite physical traits?
2. What is one of your favourite aspects to your personality? Everyone has inner beauty - think about it.
3. What is one of your talents?
4. What is a quality that you like about yourself?
5. When was a moment that you were proud of yourself? Why did it make you proud? It could be a time you worked hard for something and achieved it or you did something great.
6. What is a long-term goal for you? Also, why is this goal important to you?
7. Name something you want to accomplish sometime in your life. It doesn't have to be a big accomplishment - just something you just want to do one day.
8. What's something that you appreciate in your life?
9. What is something physical that may be seen as 'undesirable' but you love yourself for it?
10. What is something you used to dislike about yourself, but have come to love?

The sets after this have no common theme - they're all at random. Enjoy!

Set Five

1. What is your favourite kind of ice cream? If you don't like ice cream, what's your favourite dessert?
2. What's your favourite food and why?
3. What was something new that you tried out and turned out loving it? What happened and why did you love it?
4. What is your favourite thing to do with your friends?
5. Name someone you hung out with within the last week. What did you do and how did you feel after?
6. Who was the last person to make you smile?
7. What do you enjoy the most about in life?
8. Where is a place that always makes you happy?
9. Think about the last time someone complimented you. What did they say?
10. What was the kindest thing that someone has ever done for you?

Set Six

1. Where is one place where you'd love to travel to one day?
2. Think about your culture - what is something that you love about it?
3. What is the most important quality in a friend?
4. In relation to #3, who is a friend that has that quality?
5. What was the best gift you had ever received? When was it?
6. What is a quote that always makes you feel happy or gives you strength?
7. Who is your real-life superhero?
8. Take a quality of yourself and turn it into a superpower. What would that superpower be called and what does it do?
9. What is something small that you appreciate more than anything?
10. What's your favourite song and why?

If you have any ideas of a set or would like to submit your set and spread the love and happiness, please neomail me!

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Here's a compilation of some quotes that, I hope, will you be more optimistic and be more positive!

This section is under construction! If you want to contribute to a quote that means something to you, please neomail me!

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